Resources for Friends
If you are concerned about a friend think about talking to them about your concerns. The following things may be helpful to keep in mind:
1. Be sure to meet with this person in a place that allows for a private conversation and at a time when you both have enough time available for a meaningful conversation.
2. Share your concerns directly, but don’t fall into the trap of listing evidence as to why you’re “right”, simply state what you’ve observed and ask if you can help.
3. Have referral resources available to share with this person. If this friend is a Truman student share UCS contact information (phone: 660-785-4014). Should this person live away from Kirksville, a quick search on www.psychologytoday.com/ will create a list of available mental health support resources in this person’s zip code.
4. Plan to do something to take care of yourself after this conversation, talk to a peer or family member about how it went, go for a walk, spend some reflective time alone, etc.
5. Follow up with this person. After you’ve encouraged them to seek help ask them how it went and remind them that you’re there to offer continued support.
6. Remind yourself you’ve done all you can. You may find this person is resistant or hesitant to take action, allow them the freedom of adulthood to make that choice but reflect on whether you need to set new boundaries in the relationship.
*PLEASE NOTE: In some situations, students may need a personal consult with a UCS counselor to determine how best to help a friend. Students may consult with a counselor by calling the UCS appointment line (660-785-4014) and scheduling to discuss “how to help a friend.”